creating a pleasure based lifestyle
welcome
Let’s build it stronger! From pain to pleasure, one breath at a time.
Overcome your obstacles
Too busy, feeling disconnected and sexuality is the very last thing that you want to look at as something that could help.
Family dynamics are stressful, your children are struggling and it wouldn’t occur that inviting sensual pleasure into your own lifestyle could be a catalyst for change.
Talking about sexuality and pleasure with a partner or children is challenging.
Ways to work together
Private Sessions:
Mentorship approach-
to describe how I work with clients. So much of the journey has been about simply being seen. I’ve travelled a bumpy road finding new ways to love and live in my body with many tears along the way. It has turned out that the pain has also housed some of my greatest potential and power. All along, I came to understand that there never was anything wrong with me. There was nothing to fix.
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only powerful. My job is to help you stay out of your story. We get clear on where you want to go, where you are now and the steps that can help you find your way. My training involves an in-depth understanding of guiding premises, a creative process, a roadmap for transforming emotions, a conflict process, a reparenting technique, plus movement, meditation and breathing techniques to get clients into their bodies.
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And sometimes, you will override that slow part only to find yourself out of balance again. That is cause for celebration because that’s how we find our way.
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Even though so much of this training is about sensuality and rediscovering ourselves as sexual beings, I can’t remember ever talking to my teacher, Dr. Saida Desilets about sex either solo practice or in relationship. It didn’t matter. Life provided enough scenarios full of emotions to unravel. In order to grow erotically, emotional capacity needs to grow keeping in step. The exploration of erotic edges naturally expose the tender emotional wounds so its crucial to lean into the heart genital connection.
The stories of how our stars get dirty vary, yet no one escapes growing up 100% sparkly. So, what to do about it…fixing or cleaning?
my name is lesley
Hello,I am not my story and you are not your story AND it IS something that shapes up and gives us somewhere to start in the unravelling.
We are all sexual beings and are born EROTICALLY INNOCENT. Then what happens? We don’t have any control over what happens to our innocence in our early years. There are many versions of trauma and how it comes to be stored in the body. This is a little snippet of my journey. Now, I believe that the innocence has been there all along waiting to be rediscovered.
Love from past clients
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I was able to awaken "extra energy"
In the second pandemic winter I experienced profound changes in my emotions, cognition and mood that were interfering with my functioning as a health care worker, mother and spouse. I sought support form my family, my friends, my family doc, a trauma counsellor, a clinical social worker, a mediator, a gynecologist, an acupuncturist and a psychiatrist. The one thing that has, in retrospect, made the most impact for me was studying the Jade Egg Essentials with Lesley Joiner.
In the throes of my perimenopause, (heavy periods ->anemia->lethargy->sexual stagnation->depression->anxiety->etc.), I was finding it time consuming and frustrating to attempt to integrate symptom management advice from multiple care providers. Exploring my sexual health proved to be the key; it opened the door for me to trust my own brain and body by "tuning in" to the Jing Chi or "sexual energy" already within me.
Because of the print, audio, video, 1:1 and group sessions provided by Lesley, I was able to awaken "extra energy", enough to initiate a self-care plan to feel strong and capable again, and get back on track with emotional self-regulation, intentionally making space for fun and pleasure. Lesley's lived experience, education and absolute passion for this critical work clearly inspire her to provide a unique and immensely empowering client experience.
Barb L 2022
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not once did I feel any judgment
My sessions with Lesley started out with very few expectations, just a rough outline of what she had been learning at the time, and now has since fully grasped. In the beginning, I bounced plenty of questions around the topic of sex and relationships, both inside and outside of the bedroom. She helped to show me how to redefine crude, narrow, and conservative terms and definitions with a different perspective that harnesses/curates a kinder, more spiritual—I suppose a personally meaningful—direct term or insight to taboo topics that carry an unjust societal shame, as I came to learn and understand.
All the while meandering through our conversations, not once did I feel any judgment or unwillingness to share, as Lesley creates such a safe and warm space for learning and healing.
Ben, 24
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Making a Patchwork Quilt with Lesley Joiner
“I enjoyed the experience of making the quilt. There are moments of sewing, of having been individually guided along a joint creative path, of listening to conversations, of seaming together smaller, then larger pieces, of harvesting my children's old pyjamas and night gowns for the raw strips of the log cabin style - there are moments which surpass the result which is this splendid quilt. Emerging into the creative space with an expert guide who has the feeling of what to offer is my treasure. The quilt reminds me of my children and also of our sessions creating beauty.”
Geoffrey Lyford
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